Showing posts with label sexuality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexuality. Show all posts

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Hatshepsut...and other gendequeer Africans

Tomorrow the kids at my school are having a Black History Month Assembly that I mostly organized. Pray for us!

My kids are reciting A Dream Deferred by Langston Hughes. They've got it down pat! I love it!

I'm listening to Dr. Yosef Ben Jochannan on You Tube. He's really awesome...because he has so much information about ancient African civilizations from field work, though...you guessed it...he's a little homophobic. Which saddens me. But makes me realize that I've got a lot of fucken work to do in terms of attempting to build bridges between the Africentric LGBT community and the Africentric straight community because...we are one people...and Africentricity, if you haven't guessed...is my thing...and I don't like folks tryna shut me out of my own fucken history. I know that since Africa is the source of all humanity, Africa contained the seed for human diversity and that various forms of sexuality and gender expression have existed on the continent since foever. I know it in my heart...now I just gotta back it up with research. Because I refuse to be written out of history. It was European culture which taught us to hate our bodies and our sexualities in general...I would be wholly and completely unsurprised if it was our interaction with European culture which caused us to hate this natural diversity within ourselves. (And you know how us Black folk love to oppress each other even harder than Europeans ever did once we learn how...) Especially since the record shows that contact with European culture caused many peoples to turn their backs on their ancient practices of welcoming "two-spirited" people in their communities. But who knows. Maybe homophobia originated on the African continent, too. I doubt that we were ever homophobic to the level that so many African countries and regions within the Diaspora are today tho. I really do feel like the intense homophobia and hatred within Africa and the Diaspora are symptoms of the colonialism we are still under. Consensual sex, love between any souls...are truly sacred things whether they occur between two women, two men, or a woman/man pair. It's all about energy flowing between two or more bodies. I stand firm in that belief. I trust my body to tell me what's natural to it.

And plus...Hatshepsut...who later dropped the feminine "t" at the end of her name to become Hatshepsu...was a female fucken pharoah...a female fucken pharoah. This chick went all the fucken way tho...put on the beard...wore the clothing of a male pharoah...had statues made of herself portraying her as a pharoah. How...studly.

And now...the research begins...well, after my nap.



From Alicia Banks' website:

Stolen Women: Reclaiming Our Sexuality, Taking Back Our Lives is an excellent book by Dr. Gail Elizabeth Wyatt. Read it today. It expertly examines Black female sexuality. It is afrocentric and candid. It is written so that it may be as valuable to a teenager as it is to the mother of a teenager. Every sister and every person who loves a sister should read this book.

It is because I love this book so that I am so deeply wounded by the following quote taken from it: “[In Africa] There were sexual practices that were not condoned, such as adultery, rape, incest or homosexual relationships.” No true scholar would ever make any blanket statements about any cultural practices in Africa. Africa is a HUGE continent with HUNDREDS of tribes. Each tribe has diverse traditions and practices.

It is true that some African tribes do not condone homosexuality. It is equally true that some African tribes DO condone homosexuality. It is wrong and homophobically cruel to state otherwise, as Wyatt has done.

I LOATHE this special pseudo-African brand of gaybashing. I was especially repulsed to find it tainting the pages of this excellent book. Sex is an expression of love. Homosexual love is just as natural and real as heterosexual love. No true scholar ever equates homosexuality with pathology. In fact, the overwhelming majority of rapists, pedophiles and adulterers globally are HETEROSEXUAL men.

Homosexuality is ancient and universal. Africa is the First World. The first humans were African. Thus, clearly, the first homosexual humans were African also.

I cannot express the EXCRUCIATING emotional pain of being denied my heritage and homeland because I am a lesbian. It is a brutal act of bigotry that stings my very soul. Gaybashers, like homosexuals, are everywhere. Yet, I have NEVER heard a white gaybasher tell a white lesbian that she is not a true European because she is gay.

Many lesbian women and girls will read Stolen Women. The truth about homosexuality in Africa should not be stolen from them as they do so. They should not be omitted from the legacy of African sisterhood simply because they are homosexual.

I REFUSE to EVER allow anyone to imply that Africa was EVER a heterosexist utopia!!! No such world has ever existed. And, it never will. Homosexuals, like heterosexuals, are eternal.

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Friday, July 18, 2008

Poly? Me?

I took the Poly Acceptance Test at OK Cupid, from a link I found over at One Tenacious Baby Mama's. Results?

Polymore

You're 83% tolerant, 78% polyamorist, 62% polyfidelitist, and 69% swinger.



You love the polyamorous way of life. You see it as one of the greatest hopes of humanity. You may not hold that EVERYONE ought to be polyamorous, but you definitely feel a LOT of people out there SHOULD be polyamorous, and don't realize it. They are polyamorous at heart. The rising incidents of divorce and affairs testify to that.



Hmm am I? Would I? I dunno. I think I would like my relationships to have the possibility of expanding in a polyamorous direction if included parties so desire, but am I emotionally stable enough to truly take part in such a love formation? Guess it remains to be seen, no?

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Desi[r]evolution

Darkdaughta says on her website that she is accepting ongoing submissions for a possible book called desi[r]evolution. While i dunno that i have enough 'life experience' to make any sort of intelligible contribution, and while i'm not sure that i would want to be that exposed at this point in my life (by exposed i mean be in a book about desire. i've also been looking, though, at robyn ochs' call for writing), i think the questions she poses are interesting. i think they're really forward thinking. i wanted to repost them here so that i could kind of think about them as i begin this process of living out my twenties. maybe i'll make an effort to make a post answering one of the questions every sunday (starting next week. i need time to think on them.) here's what i got from the site:

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desi[r]evolution : black women talk race, gender, colonization and sexual politics.

so, i'm wonderin'...
are black gyals 'free' yet?

this is me askin':
how [sexually] 'free' are we plannin' on allowing ourselves to be?

for that matter, how sexually 'free' is it possible for us to really be?

what is free dom when we can't be sure how much of our relationship to sex is reaction as opposed to action ?

a few hundred years after the middle passage - our collective racial/social/spiritual/physical/sexual/familial colonization experience/forced dance with domination, can any of us tell the difference?

in a racist, consumerism-driven, sexually conflicted yet still sex-negative world, is it really even possible for there to be a descernable difference?

seein' as the whole dyam world defines us as pussy for sale, how much [if any] of their mess can we clear out of our minds?
what sorts of conscious, intentional sexualities are we actually planning on pursuing, embracing, claiming?

how does does the middle class conservative hetero-patriarchy still so dominant in our homes/lives/communities effect the way[s] we do/talk/experience sex?

is one lover or partner really enuff?
why does it have to be?

do you come from a space/place where a fully, openly sexual woman, clear about her needs and desires, open about her appetites needs to fear for her safety and her career? or are you from a space/place where a woman is expected to by learning and growing, naming and exploring what it means to be female, adult and ripe with the power of her erotic?

how does an experience of sexual abuse, rape, physical trauma impact on your understanding of your body, it's functions, your desires and your erotic?

why do these sorts of questions bring up so many other questions related to morality and christianity, to the sacred and the profane, to the reckless and the insane?

how are my sistren managing, sexin' in this post-emancipation 'freedom' time? is the development and liberation of our sexual selves keeping pace with our struggles to decolonize our spirits, minds, families and communities?

does a revolutionary sister still have to keep her thighs clenched in order to be seen as a worthy ally and to fight tha good fight or does she just need to be a docile wife/partner, shadow behind every/any man and baby machine for the patriarchally dominated nation?